Is ‘balance’ really the answer?

‘Balance’ has become a word that gets thrown around a lot. It’s often used as a solution to a busy lifestyle, to an unhealthy diet, to living a better life. I’d put money on that you’ve been privy to countless marketing messages promoting ‘balance’ in numerous forms.

I for one will admit that for a while I strived to find ‘balance’ in everything I did, and still do some days. Hell, my blog is based on ‘finding balance, on and off the mat’. But over the last few months, I have started to see things differently. I don’t know whether it’s my change of mindset after completing my training, realising I have options, or the turning 30 but the word balance has become a bit of a blocker in the way I’ve started to look at things.

For me, the problem with ‘balance’ is it won’t last forever. It’s not sustainable. Eventually it’s got to topple over. Think about balancing plates or about your physical self, balancing on your mat – you will always need to let go eventually or release the balance. And for me this isn’t a healthy way to look at things any more.

I am working through some self-beliefs at the moment and part of that has been to look at limiting beliefs and values. I am quite a visual person, so being able to visualise my life in balance has been a real eye opener. When picturing balance in my life, this is me holding one thing in the right hand and something else in the left and walking along a tightrope – this actually makes me feel on edge because I can just see myself dropping one of them or falling over. In my mind, by visualising balance, I set a limiting belief that I can only fully concentrate on 50% of one thing and 50% of something else, and this won’t get me very far!

Instead, I have been exploring the idea of ‘flowing’ through life. I know, I know! Changing the word isn’t going to actually change how I live my life but what it does do is help me shift my mindset. I do really believe that if you can visualise something, it can make all the difference to your attitude and approach to things and by removing the word balance, mine does exactly that.

For me, the word ‘flowing’ embodies the idea of being able to manage everything in my life but paying more attention to some things more than others at different times. The idea is that you have visibility and awareness of everything that’s going on but you choose to heighten your attention to different things at different times. If I’m making absolutely no sense, maybe try and visualise a wave (a bit like the one on my website actually! total coincidence I promise) that moves up and down, back and forth constantly but with each wave something different is washed up. Hope that makes sense J

I think it’s true what they say, it’s all about mindset and I encourage you to do whatever it takes, even if it is making absolutely no sense to anyone, to make sure you have the right tools and approach to empower you to be the best you can be!